Everywhere you turn, there is a discussion of the COVID-19 virus and how it is affecting our community. As these conversations are taking place in a public manner, our children are exposed to an extensive amount of frightening information. Such details that are being communicated include the rising number of individuals who have contracted COVID-19, the closure of schools, the lockdown of large cities, and the number of individuals who have passed away due to COVID-19. As a parent, we must help our children feel in control in these uncertain times, help them manage their fears and confusion while facing our own doubts. Below are five ways we can discuss this COVID-19 virus with our children.

1. Remain calm and reassuring 

First, we must remain calm and reassuring for our children. We must be mindful of what we are saying to them and how we say it as our children can pick up on our tones, mannerism, and body language. If they see that we are panicking, they will believe they should be doing the same.

2. Provide information that is accurate and honest 

Next, we must ensure that our children are receiving information that is age-appropriate and truthful. As the internet and social media often provide information that is not always accurate, we must become smart consumers of the information we are given. If your child asks you a question that you do not know the answer too, be honest and say that you do not know.

3. Give your children space to discuss their fears 

If your children find the information you provided is scary or fearful, it is crucial that they feel they can openly share their fears and worry. Exploring these thoughts and concerns is important as your child might be worried about questions such as “what if I get sick” or “what if mom or dad gets sick?

4. Teaching children everyday actions to reduce the spread of germs 

We must remind our children about simple steps that can be taken to reduce the spread of germs. Such reminders include staying away from people who are sick or coughing or sneezing into tissue can go a long way. We can remind our children how to wash our hands properly and how we can make the process fun, such as singing their favorite song. Lastly, we can demonstrate this process through activities like this one: https://youtu.be/3TJJNsUmDQ0.

5. Make yourself available to listen and talk 

Ensure that your child knows they can come to you and talk about any questions or concerns they might have. This can be done by setting aside time for you and your children to speak as well as spend time together and complete fun activities. 

During this challenging time, having an open and honest conversation with your child can make a difference. If you or your child need assistance during this time, please reach out to a mental health professional as we are currently providing online telehealth sessions, phone sessions, and in-person sessions.

By: Mary Collins, LPC, CADC